Friday, November 1, 2013

November 2013: Airhead


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ovember is my month, this is because it’s the month of my birthday and the month where my summer long holiday begins, after all my exams that is. This year the end of November will be one very special week. It will be the first time I celebrate my birthday with my boyfriend and also my first time travelling alone without my parents. Beginning in the last week of November, I will be travelling to Kuala Lumpur and going to an AVICII concert on my birthday, then heading to Hangzhou and Beijing to study Chinese for two months. 


I am no airhead, I place education first and intelligence is of great importance to me. And since November is the month of my final exams, this issue will be kept simple. This issue will be a bit different to all the past issues. Instead of focussing on fashion or beauty, this one is going to be focusing on intelligence. A highly interesting opinion on this topic was found on www.therulesrevistied.com where the author talks about whether intelligence in a woman is attractive or not.  
An interesting point he made was this: “…imagine how it would feel to date a man who was far more physically attractive than you… You, on the other hand… aren't the best looking woman in the world… Now imagine walking into a party on this man's arm. Heads turn from every direction as you walk in, but to take in his beauty - not yours. You are barely noticed. This is how a man of inferior intelligence (read: weakness) can feel in the presence of a woman who is much smarter than him. And this probably goes a long way towards illustrating how the feeling isn't "threatening" or "intimidating" so much as demoralizing - which is worse.
“All of this is background to making the point that men want to be smarter than their woman, and they want this not because they are proud or misogynist, but in order to feel a sense of purpose. They aren't afraid of or threatened by smarter women, but their woman's intelligence can prevent them from having the advantage of power that makes them feel masculine and garners their woman's admiration… One final and important point: intelligence is still undoubtedly a positive trait in women, so long as it does not undermine the man's strength by exceeding his… 
“And finally, smarter-than-average women: rest assured that your intelligence is not a negative in the dating world. While it is true that unintelligent men might be turned off by their own relative inability, your intelligence will be highly valued by the men you find most attractive - that is, the smartest ones.” So that is to say for women out there, if you want to attract an intelligent man, firstly you must be intelligent yourself.  
Intelligence has risen to the 4th most-desirable trait that a man looks for while scoping out a spouse, according to a 2008 survey by sociologist Christine Whelan of the University of Pittsburgh. “Intelligence is sexy, end of story,” said Weston Funcheon of St. Augustine. “The only ‘threat’ I would feel from an educated woman is that she might leave me for a smarter man.
In the UK Daily Mail, one article stated that “new research suggests men increasingly value intellect and character in a partner over a shapely figure. Apparently, traditional wifely skills such as being a good cook are also becoming less important to modern men, British scientists claim. They say in Western societies where men and women are equal, interest in a woman’s appearance is in decline. However, women now tend to be more interested in a man’s looks than before, and less preoccupied by their wealth as they are able to depend on themselves financially.”
As stated in Gargoyle, according to an article in the New York Times, educated women also have more stable relationships, making them much more likely to remain married once they tie the knot than their less educated friends.“It makes sense that educated women are sticking with their men,” said Luis Lopez from Jacksonville. “You form a much deeper connection with a partner you can talk to, you know? Give me a woman who can make me think and make me laugh, the rest will fall into place.”

These opinions highlight a major shift from the American post-war male’s way of thinking. In 1956, men ranked housekeeping abilities and a sunny disposition far ahead of intelligence and education (which they ranked 11th out of 18 possible criteria). But today’s men seem to scoff at the idea. “I mean, being able to cook and clean is nice, I guess,” Funcheon said. “But I’d consider it more of a bonus than a requirement.” 
“When you enter into a marriage, you’re basically saying ‘I’m going to do everything to care for and love the other’s physical, emotional and spiritual health’ so that person could be the best they could be,” said Stephen Derrig, a visiting sociology instructor at Flagler College. “That requires communication and that might comport to desiring someone with a similar level of education.” 
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